3 steps to become more confident
Recognize and train your power of belief.
Confidence is created by you and your recognition of your own power within. Your power to believe you are capable, and if you can not meet certain standards today, it is okay. because you believe you can work yourself into a place where one day you will achieve that status.
Your power to believe in yourself is free and simple. But at first, it might feel inauthentic.
Some people might call that inauthenticity, the imposter syndrome. Truthfully, we have all faced those thoughts before; they do not come from a place of solidified fact but from a place of uncertainty, from insecurity.
In a way, those inauthentic thoughts are good because they are showing you the road map to achieving what you wish to believe and think.
Don’t waste time in overthinking, battling looped thought experiments in your mind about the what-ifs and I’m not good enoughs.
I want you to write down what the common root problems are in those insecure thoughts. Is it a fear of public speaking? a fear of leadership? a fear of the unknown? Perhaps it is money constraints.
Write down the problem behind the useless thought, and then write down the simplest and basic solutions.
If the insecurity is coming from a lack of experience, then find creative, simple solutions to earn a good foundation in said experience. I’m talking about something simple.
Short example: if your fear is content creation, create a nameless, brandless account and post all of your junk videos on it. If you can’t do that, then create videos of yourself and keep them in the drafts. Record yourself speaking about the subject aimlessly. I’m certain those first videos will suck; it is what it is. But doing so would allow you to practice and fine-tune your flow.
Be kind
Life is beautiful, our world is beautiful. Kindness helps you see more of the beauty in life, and doing so will boost your confidence significantly.
Why and how?
Kindness requires you to be kind to something or someone. It requires you to engage with the world. and doing so creates reciprocity. Sharing acts of kindness immerses your experiences in positive interactions. Interactions that open doors and color your perspective with a more welcoming energy.
That energy translates into a positive motivation related to your life. You’ll eventually begin to see the beauty in life and the world. This, in turn, raises your sense of confidence because the world begins to feel less hostile to you.
Embrace being uncomfortable as a test of willpower.
Practice, practice, practice. To embrace being uncomfortable, to embrace the challenge in whatever you are attempting to accomplish. This creates mastery, which in turn raises your confidence.
Many people face simple yet potent obstacles to accomplishing their goals.
Procrastination is one of the most common. Generally, procrastination is a form of anxiety that comes from many reasons. One of the most common is a lack of willingness to act due to the belief in the complexity of the tasks.
The best way to overcome this is to take a step back and create actions on the most simple needs.
An example. If your goal is to read a book. First, make yourself read the first word. Then the first sentence. Then the first paragraph. Naturally, doing such a mundane task pushes you to push further.
